Getting out of the friend zone in 3 easy steps.

The friend zone:
There is a huge difference between being 'just friends' with someone, and in the 'friendzone' with someone. Just friends is a normal, healthy friendship between two people. The 'friendzone' on the other hand is a one-sided affair. In friendzone relationships, the man invests emotionally in similar fashion to a courting suitor, but is already disqualified as a potential mate. The woman then keeps the man in tow, purposely exploiting his attraction for affection, gifts, money, and protection without reciprocating the altruism and instead showing just enough interest to hold his affections.

Women do not experience the friend zone. Ever. Sure, something similar exists where a man insists on being just fuckbuddies, just seeing eachother, or you become 'justfriends'. Those are relevant states but they are NOT THE FRIEND ZONE. People in these groups haven't necessarily been excluded from future sexual congress, or a future relationship, and are not generally being exploited for resources.

So with that in mind, I give you the 3 steps towards frendzone freesdom.

Step 1) Get the fuck away.

Imagine a tribal society. A young, awkward boy has a crush on a young woman in the tribe, but since he's just a boy, she never takes him seriously. That boy leaves the village to go on a ritualistic journey to achieve manhood called a Walkabout. When he returns, he is experienced in the world. He carries himself with authority and confidence. He is a proud man and a warrior.

You're a smart person. Do you think humans might have a mechanism to distinguish the difference between our tribal wingman's before and after? Fuck yes.

Hence step 1 is getting the fuck away from her. Not necessarily out of town, just out of her rotation. I always say that the cure for the friend zone is the IGNORE button. But if you can do something really cool like go to college, move to the big city... Do it.

2) Improve yourself.
Do the shit that actually makes you a bad ass.
-Get some experience with women. Seduce a few. Maybe have another girlfriend.
-Lift weights/lose weight/improve your physicality.
-Get a new look. Better haircut, better clothes.
-Make new friends. Build your social circle. Gain a high status hobby (only if you actually love it, don't fake it).

You have to make big sweeping life changes that make you more valuable than her on the dating market.

Step 3) Come back.
Come back into her life and give her a chance to see the new you. Odds are she'll already be more attracted to you just from the take-away you did in step one... But let's face it. Who's more likely to get laid:
Luke Skywalker in Star Wars: A New Hope


Or

Luke Skywalker in Return of the Jedi: